I think one of the most unfounded fears among novice submissives is the whole whips and chains thing. They dig everything else but just never found the idea of getting hit appealing. And before I knew anything I wouldn’t have enjoyed the thought of some mean woman tying me up and hitting me with objects and whips and floggers. And I wouldn’t be keen on it today.But a flogging is nothing to fear. It’s almost like a thuddy massage. I think it’s popular because you can totally lose sense of self under one. It’s hard to explain unless you have experienced it. Spanking is a little easier to wrap your mind around unless it was a big part of your childhood. Butt, offering up your ass to a hand is pretty erotic and is found in many romance novels. And wandering fingers into tight little wet holes make it even more so.
It’s all good fun. Be safe. Play safe. Choose your Dom carefully. Trust your instincts. A good Dom will never drag you to his cave by your hair, but will give you the time to choose to kneel before him. There are abusive fuckers out there looking to take advantage. People can and do get hurt. People can and do get killed. Just be smart about things and learn what you can about safety. Didn’t mean to get on the safety horse today but there is a lot of good information out there on how to play safe.I found a candle today I’ve had for a while for wax play. I might drip a little on myself before I shower. It’s been so long since I’ve played with wax. Just to get a sense of what it feels like.
